In my last post I announced that I am pregnant with baby #2! I’m due at the end of June and now that we’re into 2017, I have a confession.
I’m scared to death.
Yes, I planned to have baby #2. Yes, I planned to have my kids close together. But that doesn’t change the fact that bringing another tiny human into the world is absolutely terrifying.
Why? Here are the reasons:
#1 – There are just as many of them as there are of us.
Having one child means that you get to tag team. I can play bad cop, my husband can play good cop and on the especially rough days we can both pin him down to get his diaper changed. When baby #2 arrives, it’ll be every man for himself. I can picture it now: one of us will be soothing a crying baby while the other will be chasing a crazy toddler (who hates wearing clothes) all over the house.
The solution seems clear: make sure there is always a full bottle of wine in the house.
#2 – Finances are going to be tight.
Let’s face it: babies cost money. And we don’t have a ton of that lying around. Diapers, wipes, clothes, etc…it all adds up. And if my breastfeeding journey goes like it did last time, then we’ll be shelling out some cash for formula at six months.
I know you never feel financially prepared to take on another kid. But I’m a chronic worrier and this is definitely at the top of the list.
#3 – My firstborn will be jealous.
I’ve heard nightmare stories about the oldest child acting out when baby#2 is born (I was that oldest child and let’s just say I didn’t take it well when my sister arrived). I’m worried my son will act out (he already has a case of the terrible twos and he’s only 14 months). I’m worried he won’t feel as loved as he truly is. I’m worried we won’t be as close as we once were. I’m worried he’ll feel neglected. I’m just…worried.
#4 – Running my business is going to be hard.
As many of you know, I started my own business nearly one year ago (check it out if you haven’t already!). I have a hard enough time juggling a business, a husband, a toddler and a dog. How am I going to survive adding one more baby to the mix? A big part of the reason why I started my business is so I could have the flexibility to raise a family. I know it will all work out – but still. My sanity is in question.
#5 – The clutter is going to be crazy.
Our family room already looks like a tornado blew through it most days. Add another baby and it’s going to look uninhabitable. Baby stuff is so clunky and huge and takes up way too much room. I have a feeling my husband and I are going to get lost in the stuff. Can you picture it? “Honey, where are you at?” “Make a left at the swing and then turn right at the stacking blocks”.
#6 – My husband and I won’t have enough time together.
Time alone is a precious commodity as it is (one of the many things no one told me about marriage after kids). How are we going to find time for each other after there’s another mouth to feed? I think we’ll have to get more intentional about spending time together and carve out a portion each night where we focus on just being together (this certainly means less TV time).
So there you have it. All my worries about going from 1 to 2 kids. There are probably many more I haven’t thought of yet, but I’ll spare you the details.
Here’s the thing though: despite all my worries, I am so incredibly excited for this baby to arrive. He or she is already so loved. I already can picture our life as a family of four. And even though I know chaos is about to ensue, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
In fact, I think having a second baby is going to be really good for me. I like to have everything tied into a neat, perfect little bow. This baby is going to disrupt that. I’ll probably cry every hour and vent uncontrollably to my husband. But then I’ll pick myself back up, put one foot in front of the other and go on loving my kids the best I know how. And trust me – there is plenty of love to go around.
What tips do you have for adding a second child to the family? Leave your comments (and encouragement) below!