I don’t know about you, but I have a hard time keeping it all together. Some days I feel like I’ve conquered the world and others I feel like giving up and going back to bed. I’m juggling being a mom of one (two in June), a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend and a business owner. Most of the time I feel like I’m failing at every single role.
I can’t imagine I’m alone in this. And since today is Valentine’s Day, I wrote a love letter. To all of the mothers just like me. All of the moms who are exhausted and spent. All of the moms who have reached their breaking point. All the moms who aren’t sure if they can take one more step forward.
Dear fellow mama,
Chances are you’re running around in a ratty sweatshirt and pants right now. You probably haven’t showered in a few days and as for hair and makeup, well, forget about it. You’re chasing after your kid (s) and counting down the hours till the next nap (or till your significant other gets home). You’re remembering the days when you could run errands in peace and when your nice sweater didn’t have drool stains. You feel frazzled and pulled in a million different directions. Maybe you’re thinking, I’m not cut out for this. I’m so tired and I just don’t know when I’ll catch a break.
Oh mama, I feel you. I’m in the same boat too. And it’s a lonely one. But here’s the thing: you can keep going. You were made for this moment. You were made to raise children. It may seem like a thankless job now, but trust me – you will reap the rewards. Your heart will melt every time your child looks up at you and says, I love you mom. Every time you kiss a scraped knee or watch your child fall asleep because he or she is too afraid to sleep alone in the dark. You are the one they look to for support. You are the one who brings them comfort. You are the love of their lives.
Each season will bring a new hardship. But don’t worry – you got this. Immerse yourself in each moment and take note of everything around you, because it all goes so fast. One day you’ll look back longingly on these days and wish they would return. One day you’ll wish your child would call you and ask for help. One day you’ll want to feel needed again.
So take a deep breath and keep on going. Keep pushing forward. Put one foot in front of the other. Sure, you’ll lose your patience. You’ll yell or say things you don’t really mean. You’ll mess up or forget important stuff. Don’t worry, your kids know you love them. And at the end of the day, that’s all that matters.
Take today to celebrate the love you have for your kids and your spouse. But don’t forget the most important person: you. Take time to love yourself. To appreciate everything you do for everyone around you. To pat yourself on the back and be proud of everything you’ve accomplished.
Because mama, you’re a total rockstar.